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October 28, 2025When Self-Esteem is Missing
When self-esteem is missing from our lives we erect defences, wear masks, or become clowns. But when we have self-esteem we are able to love, give of ourselves, and pull the best out of others.
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Self-Esteem
The regard with which we view ourselves is called our self-esteem. It is our mental self-perception. We develop this perception throughout our lives as it springs from our nature, is cultivated by our nurture, and fleshed out and expressed in our experiences. Self-esteem is tied to our sense of belonging, our sense of worth, and sense of accomplishment.
Our problem is that sin affects every part of our being including our mental perceptions. The result is a distorted, false view of ourselves, others, and God. And since self-esteem often drives our behaviour, a distorted viewpoint will lead to sinful actions.
God's answer to our problem is to provide His Word for truth and knowledge about Himself and His actions toward us. His Word also provides us with truth and knowledge about who we are. Our new self-perception begins with a new birth into a new family. We are a new creation in Christ with a new identity. We are given a new mind—the mind of Christ—so we can see God as He is and see ourselves in proper relation to Him. At the heart of a proper self-esteem is a proper recognition of this new position in Christ. The Spirit of God in us teaches us the truth of who we are in Christ as we grow in the knowledge of God's Word. In learning these truths we can then go on to behave in a way consistent with who we are.
Building Esteem in Children
Want a confident family? Focus on building into each other a sense of worth and value. Chuck Swindoll shares one way his family builds into each other when words just aren't enough.
Getting Connected
Are you caught in a life filled with insecurity, inner struggle, and confusion? Perhaps it’s because you’re disconnected. Disconnections lead to disqualification and dysfunction. Connections lead to victory. Get connected to Christ.
Wise Reprovers
When we’re reproved we feel defensive. We want to protect ourselves. But what if instead we committed ourselves to becoming like Christ? When conformity to Christ becomes our goal we welcome reproof.
Peer Pressure
Standing alone is tough. It’s easier to fit in, to be a people-pleaser. Look at your home, your work, your relationships and ask yourself, “Am I any different from the world?”
Stay Away From Glory Hogs
It’s easy to be impressed with ourselves, isn’t it? We become enamoured with our positions and authority and we forget it is all given to us from the Saviour. Everything we have is on loan from Him.
Inferiority
It’s easy to compare ourselves to others—but there’s no reason to! God made each of us unique and to Him we are works of art.
Go For It
How few are those who see beyond the danger...who say to those on the edge of some venture, “Go for it!” I suppose it's related to one's inner ability to imagine, to envision, to be enraptured by the unseen, all the hazards and hardships notwithstanding.
Singing Praises
Proverbs 27:2 says “Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; A stranger, and not your own lips.” You do good work and others will find you. They will sing your praises.
Counting the Cost and Following Through
Starting is always easier than finishing, which is why follow through is a reflection of character. Besides, God doesn't quit on us, so why should we give up when the going gets tough?
