Life's not easy for anyone, as Chuck assures us. We all have continual challenges. That's why Steve takes comfort from Proverbs 16:9 and knowing we must submit all things to God's care.
It's one thing to accept the truth of your situation; it's another to bathe your acceptance in hope, energy, and joy. Steve talks about working to align your feelings with what you know.
Chuck shares a bit of the struggle he and Cynthia have had in processing Jonathan's diagnoses. They found peace once they were able to fully accept Jonathan the way God made him.
To enter into the world of a special needs family means to put aside concerns about image and others' expectations. We need to boldly ask what a person needs and then meet that need.
Remembering your own struggles helps you be real with one who is hurting. Steve explains how removing his own mask allows others to do the same and just be who they are.
Everyone is different, and individuals must process pain and grief at their own pace. That's why Steve says it's essential for him to allow the Spirit to move and guide his time with a person in pain.
It's almost impossible to enter into a person's painful experience until you have first formed a relationship with him or her. After that, just being there with them is enough.
There are so many things you don't need to say to someone grieving and so few things you do need to say. Your presence and total acceptance, with no shame, speaks volumes.
Chuck Swindoll recognizes a depth in Steve which has made him an effective pastor who reaches people. His own loss has freed him from the need to have the answers for others' pain.
Experiencing the crushing of your soul changes the lens through which you view life. Steve describes some ways he views things differently now, especially with his younger daughters.