Read Psalm 127:1 

Here's the idea. 

During those all-important early months and years of marriage, make sure that the Lord your God is the heart and centre of your family! If He is not, the whole experience is a study in futility—a wasted, empty, counterproductive effort. It will all be in vain. 

He doesn't have in mind a home that hangs a lot of religious mottos on the walls or a couple that simply goes to church regularly or offers up a quick prayer before meals or places a big Bible on the living room coffee table. 

No, the essential ingredient is "the Lord."

A family gets started on the right foot when Jesus Christ is in each life (husband and wife are both born again), and when the lengthening shadow of His Lordship pervades that relationship. 

When a couple makes Christ a vital part of their life, in the terms of the psalm, that's when "the Lord builds the house."

Excerpted from Charles R. Swindoll, Wisdom for the Way (Nashville: J. Countryman, a division of Thomas Nelson, Inc., 2001). Copyright © 2001 by Charles R. Swindoll, Inc. All rights reserved. Used by permission.